- Be prepared. Think of questions or concerns that need to be shared with the teacher. Jot them down ahead of time.
- Be alone...or with your spouse. Arrange for childcare...or have a game-plan that allows for focused one-on-one time with the teacher. The student really should not be present during this time...or siblings.
- Be on time.
- Be ready to "get down to business." The time will fly!
- Be a good listener. Generally the teacher has a report card or some type of written evaluation to share with you. Hear her observations and thoughts.
- Be open-minded. It's okay for your child to need to improve in some areas. That's what school is all about...learning, growing, developing, getting better!
- Be sure that your teacher is well-informed (prior to conference time) of any special testing done or services given to meet any area of need for your child.
- Be open to suggestions the teacher might make for future testing, services or help needed. She is concerned for your child's best interests.
- Be aware that she probably has another conference right after yours. If you feel that you need more time, just ask for the opportunity to meet again on another occasion.
- Be appreciative. As unnerving as this might be for you, imagine being in the teacher's shoes. She works hard to provide a fabulous learning experience for your child. She cares for them deeply.
And by the way, should your teacher mention the possibility of retention for your child, receive that information calmly, explore the possibilities, and please visit my blog for further thoughts on that subject.